
Causal level of partnership blockages
What are family constellations, and how have they helped me personally to disentangle intergenerational blockages to a happy and evolving marriage?
Principles of Family Constellations / Orders of Love That Can Block Our Ability to Find and Sustain a Healthy, Evolving Partnership:
Early Interrupted Bond with the Mother (Resistance to Receiving):
The recovery of the natural ability to bond, which might have been compromised early in life.
Repetition of Bond Rupture in the First and Subsequent Significant Pair Bondings:
Especially in the case of first love, where unresolved pain or separation is often repeated unconsciously.
Identification with an Excluded, Wronged, Ostracized, or Misunderstood Family Member:
Taking on the fate or emotions of a family member who was not fully seen, acknowledged, or included.
Events in Previous Relationships:
Especially significant are experiences like abortions or miscarriages, which can unconsciously affect current dynamics. Concept of love at third sight. Love after a relationship has ended as important component of new love.
Relationship to Our Mother and Her Identity as a Woman/Sexual Being:
How we relate to our mother's femininity and sexual identity can deeply impact our own relationship patterns.
Identification with a Parent’s (Usually Opposite-Sex Parent’s) Previous Partner:
Unconscious loyalty or identification that may interfere with present relationships.
Conclusion:
The notion of partnership as being so-called loved at second sight.